there are those who will tell you that treating a child with respect and acknowledging that their rights are as valid as our own is spoiling them. there are those that say children should mindlessly obey adults and authority figures no matter what, or else those kids are disrespectful little brats.
these are usually the same people who publicly share stories in which they mock and humiliate their own children for some perceived failing in a way that makes the parent seem clever and powerful and strokes their adult egos, and thus teaches the children that it’s okay to humiliate and belittle disadvantaged people to puff your own self up, to call that “love”, and also that that’s the only “love” they are worthy of, while proclaiming the lesson is actually about “respect”.
there is no reason to listen to anything these people say.
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